I’ve come to the thinking that the source (Abraham) works through us and when this happens, we begin to see how pain makes us want to change. By understanding how the pain enables us to increase our consciousness and awareness, we become able to sustain the polarity of painful opposites.
Personally, my aim in supporting someone is not to get rid of their pain and suffering but to assist them in understanding what the pain is trying to teach them so that they can find meaning in their distress. Often, all we need to do is be fully present to them. It also helps to be present to our own experience and genuine in our feelings. By living our own truth, we can create the space for the other person to live theirs.
One way to assist them is through journalling. Get them a journal and help them to write out everything and anything that appears to them. The journal is the unconditional friend – the only place that will allow one to totally abuse, laugh, ignore, swear at and sweat blood and tears. It won’t ridicule or judge you, nor will it critiscise or manipulate you. Help it to become the best friend of your “suffering” buddy. If one is unable to write, what about audiojournalling? Get a tape, allow he/she to record what they are saying and then store. They need not listen to it again.
For me, the first duty is to listen, and from this listening comes the gift of healing. How would you support one who is “suffering”? What have you experienced?